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Katie Hill’s ex accuses her of attempting to gag him with a court order and misusing campaign funds

Disgraced congresswoman Katie Hill’s former husband is accusing her of trying to ‘silence’ him to stop allegations she abused her office to sleep with staffers and misused campaign funds, DailyMail.com can reveal.

The former Democratic congresswoman from California quit the House in 2019 after it was revealed she had a ‘throuple’ relationship with a staffer and she was investigated for ethics breaches by the House.

But this week she tried to gag her former husband Kenny Heslep from revealing a series of allegations about her conduct before and during her time in public office, seeking a restraining order which would bar him from speaking to the media about her sexual and financial history.

A judge delayed ruling on her demand until later this month, but did forbid Heslep from going near Hill, her family, or her pet dog, horse and goat.

In an exclusive interview with DailyMail.com, Heslep previously detailed the allegations that Hill wanted kept secret from the public, including:

– That she had sex with three staffers

– That she had two three-way relationships

– That she used campaign donations for a ‘sex-cation’ with her then husband and the other member of their throuple

– That she drank and smoked marijuana excessively while serving as a member of Congress 

Heslep told DailyMail.com that the restraining order was her attempt to discredit and silence him.

‘I believe that the main reason for the restraining order is that she was attempting to silence me from telling my side of the story,’ Heslep told DailyMail.com.

‘She was hoping that if she was granted a gag order that her misconduct would not see the light of day.’

Former Democratic congresswoman Katie Hill was intimate with three of her employees, shared a bed with a fourth staffer and had two three-way relationships, her ex-husband has claimed in a bombshell interview with DailyMailTV

Now in an exclusive interview, the 37-year-old described a tangled web of trysts that ended in scandal when his wife’s throuple and alleged affairs with staff were revealed last year

The allegations cast Hill in a significantly different light from the image she has cultivated since stepping down last year.

The 33-year-old gave several prominent interviews, and wrote a book that will soon be a streaming movie starring Elisabeth Moss, building an image of a young, idealistic woman who made the simple mistake of forbidden romance amid an abusive marriage, accusing her husband of leaking ‘revenge porn.’

She portrayed herself as a martyr, resigning from Congress for the good of her party and pledging to work to empower other women across the country.

And she accused her husband of 15 years of abuse, using her application for a restraining order to level fresh charges, including that he had almost choked her to death.

Heslep denies the allegations of abuse.

The 37-year-old Heslep described a tangled web of trysts that ended in scandal when his wife’s throuple and alleged affairs with staff were revealed last year

In the interview with DailyMail.com, Heslep, gives his explosive account of her behavior that threatens to blow apart her carefully created image.

He claimed his ex-wife had sex with no less than three of her employees, shared a bed with a fourth staffer, and had two three-way relationships.

Heslep alleges that Hill had an insatiable sexual appetite which led her to cheat on him multiple times, smoked copious amounts of marijuana and became increasingly unstable.

The former husband claimed Hill’s behavior destroyed personal and professional relationships and ultimately blew up her political career, leading to her resignation of representing California’s 25th congressional district last year.

It also ended her marriage, with the couple quietly finalizing their divorce in October. 

A spokesperson for Hill described the allegations as ‘false, defamatory and malicious,’ and accused Heslep of being a liar who is ‘motivated by his desire to retaliate against Ms. Hill for exercising her right to leave the relationship.’

In a statement, the spokesperson added: ‘Mr. Heslep will not give [Ms. Hill] the most basic entitlement everybody should have — the right to be left alone.’

However, DailyMail can disclose, the complaint against Hill filed with the Federal Election Commission remains pending. 

Hill’s spokesperson denied that she was under investigation by the FEC.

DailyMail.com can disclose, Hill remains the subject of an FEC complaint arising from her use of campaign finances during her single, aborted, term in Congress. Heslep alleges Hill used donations for a ‘sex-cation’ with him and their girlfriend Morgan Desjardins (pictured with Hill on the Alaska trip) – who as a staffer on Hill’s campaign – to Fairbanks, Alaska, in early 2018 and falsely claimed mileage expenses 

Heslep also alleges Hill used donations for a ‘sex-cation’ with him and their girlfriend Morgan Desjardins – who as a staffer on Hill’s campaign – to Fairbanks, Alaska, in early 2018 and falsely claimed their baggage expenses and flight to her campaign costs. 

‘On the trip to Alaska I know she was using the campaign card a lot, saying it was for campaign reasons. But it wasn’t,’ Heslep said.

‘She would buy meals. We would joke it was a ‘campaign lunch’, but we weren’t working there. We were all just hanging out.’

Heslep said the trip was from January 29 to approximately February 5.

FEC records show the average bill on the campaign’s credit cards was $3,806 – but the bill for February 2018 was almost twice as high at $7,536.38.

The bill was categorized on the filings as ‘Travel Expenses’, but was not detailed further. 

A leaked email obtained by DailyMail.com shows a receipt for $453.30 flight tickets from LA to Fairbanks, forwarded from Hill’s personal email to her deputy campaign manager Ben Steinberger with the message ‘Thank you!!!’

‘On the trip to Alaska I know she was using the campaign card a lot, saying it was for campaign reasons. But it wasn’t,’ Heslep said. ‘She would buy meals. We would joke it was a ‘campaign lunch’, but we weren’t working there.’ FEC records show the average bill on the campaign’s credit cards was $3,806 – but the bill for February 2018 was almost twice as high at $7,536.38

Although no Alaska Airlines flight tickets were itemized in the campaign filings from the period, records mysteriously show the campaign paid a $50 charge to Alaska Airlines on February 11, 2018, with the description ‘baggage fees for campaign staff flight’

Although no Alaska Airlines flight tickets were itemized in the campaign filings from the period, records mysteriously show the campaign paid a $50 charge to Alaska Airlines on February 11, 2018, with the description ‘baggage fees for campaign staff flight’.

And a leaked email obtained by DailyMail.com shows a receipt for $453.30 flight tickets from LA to Fairbanks, forwarded from Hill’s personal email to her deputy campaign manager Ben Steinberger with the message ‘Thank you!!!’.

The FEC said they could not comment on the case until its conclusion.

‘Agency regulations require confidentiality on enforcement matters that have not been closed,’ a spokesman said.

The 37-year-old Heslep described a tangled web of trysts that ended in scandal when his wife’s throuple and alleged affairs with staff were revealed last year.

In one 2017 fling, Heslep claims Hill cheated on both him and her campaign staffer Morgan Desjardins, who had joined them in a three-way relationship, with another employee. 

Heslep revealed that even before bringing Hill’s employee Desjardins, who was then 22, into their marriage, they had another live-in girlfriend for two years, who also worked under Hill at her Los Angeles homeless charity.

He revealed how their marriage spiralled into a dark and broken home life, where the former congresswoman would allegedly spend her nights smoking marijuana and drinking.

But Heslep said their relationship had not always been a disaster.

Heslep revealed that even before bringing Hill’s employee Desjardins, who was then 22, into their marriage, they had another live-in girlfriend (pictured together) for two years, who also worked under Hill at her Los Angeles homeless charity

The couple have always been curious about unorthodox relationships – and got their kicks by posting naked pictures of Hill online. In 2016, Heslep shared a photo of his wife sunbathing naked in their backyard on the Reddit thread ‘r/WouldYouF***MyWife’ (pictured). Hill claims she was unaware that the photos were being taken

He told DailyMailTV he was 20 when he met Hill, then 16, at a Barnes and Noble bookshop where they both worked.

Heslep was quickly smitten with the ‘funny, easygoing, adventurous’ teen and the two spent much of their time rock climbing – where Hill was ‘bold’ and ‘never afraid to throw for a hold’.

Hill had a fractious relationship with her mother, and decided to move in with Heslep and his parents after just two months of dating.

 Pretty early on Katie came out to me as bi[sexual]. Nothing actually went down until October of 2010. That’s when we met our first girlfriend.

Heslep worked three part-time jobs, helping to put Hill first through nursing school then to earn her college degree.

The couple enjoyed experimenting and smoking marijuana on a trip to Amsterdam as part of a six-week backpacking vacation across Europe after Hill graduated, her ex said.

‘We were always partners in crime. People called us K&K, because we were inseparable,’ Heslep said. ‘One of the first times we didn’t spend the night together was in 2010, only because I was in hospital.’

Heslep said during their long conversations and pillow talk they often discussed bringing others into their relationship – though they didn’t act on their desires for years.

‘Pretty early on Katie came out to me as bi[sexual]. Nothing actually went down until October of 2010. That’s when we met our first girlfriend,’ he said.

‘We met her online. It was originally just going to be playing around, extra-curricular activities. But we weren’t into sex just for sex. We wanted to at least know the person, hang out with them, so it wasn’t just in, out, see you later.’

Heslep said the main reason for having a throuple ‘was to help Katie explore her sexuality’, though he admitted ‘there were perks for me as well of course.’

He said the relationship worked like any other – apart from a few extra rules.

‘The sleeping arrangements were that the third was always in the middle,’ he said.

He told DailyMailTV he was 20 when he met Hill, then 16, at a Barnes and Noble bookshop where they both worked. Heslep was quickly smitten with the ‘funny, easygoing, adventurous’ teen and the two spent much of their time rock climbing – where Hill was ‘bold’ and ‘never afraid to throw for a hold’

‘We were always partners in crime. People called us K&K, because we were inseparable,’ Heslep said. ‘One of the first times we didn’t spend the night together was in 2010, only because I was in hospital’

Heslep worked three part-time jobs, helping to put Hill first through nursing school then to earn her college degree. The couple enjoyed experimenting, smoking marijuana and taking magic mushrooms on a trip to Amsterdam as part of a six-week backpacking vacation across Europe after Hill graduated, her ex said. Pictured: Hill and Heslep with her younger brother Danny Bennett. He died in January aged 20

Hill had a fractious relationship with her mother, and decided to move in with Heslep and his parents after just two months of dating. Pictured: Hill (far right) with her family in 2009

‘Usually sex was all three of us, but pairing off was also okay. We would just let each other know,’ he continued. 

‘We’d have date nights with each respective person. It’s a relationship at large with three people, and it’s three individual relationships.’

Heslep did not name the woman, but DailyMail.com has independently learned she was an LA-based charity worker, who was a 21-year-old college student at the time.

Heslep’s mother, Kathy, said she was taken aback at first when she discovered her son had both a wife and a girlfriend.

But the family soon welcomed the other woman, inviting her to Thanksgiving dinner and even letting the throuple live with them for a month in 2011.

HILL’S FIRST THROUPLE PARTNER

The first woman Katie Hill brought into her marriage claims the former congresswoman was ’emotionally abusive’, financially controlling and would fly into rages at her.

The woman, who agreed to be interviewed but did not want to be named, was 21 and still in college when she met Hill and her husband Kenny Heslep on dating site OkCupid in October 2010.

The woman told DailyMail.com it was her first three-way relationship and began as an exciting adventure.

‘At the start everything seemed fine. They were very kind,’ she said. ‘There was a lot of taking me out and doing fun things. That was nice, especially for someone who was 21.’

The first woman Katie Hill brought into her marriage claims the former congresswoman was ’emotionally abusive’, financially controlling and would fly into rages at her

But after a few months Hill turned on her, she said.

‘It ended up deteriorating. She was constantly mean to me. She would take out anger on me, she spoke to me really unkindly, she would ignore me,’ she said.

‘It was very much emotionally abusive. It was gaslighting, it was exerting control through finances. Nothing I ever did was good enough, nothing I did was a worthwhile use of my time. I was always bad, I was always in trouble for something.’

The woman said Hill turned her into a ‘housewife’, leaving her relying on Hill’s paychecks and made to feel guilty for seeing her friends.

‘She pressured me into not working because she wanted somebody at home, so I was financially dependent,’ the woman said.

She claimed Hill later had her work for as an intern at her Los Angeles charity People Assisting The Homeless (PATH), reporting directly to her girlfriend.

‘That is a gross conflict of interest on her part. I should have never been invited into that situation,’ she said.

‘She somehow manipulated her boss into signing me on as a consultant. So I was getting some minimal money after graduation. But that was only because she decided that we as a household were not making enough money. She kept me as a direct report, and that was a problem.

‘When we were home she still treated me like she was my boss and that made me really uncomfortable.’

The woman told DailyMail.com she was left wondering if her job would be in jeopardy if she failed to complete chores at home.

‘She would get home and yell at me that things weren’t done to her satisfaction,’ the woman said. ‘Like I managed to get all the clothes washed but hadn’t folded everything yet. She’d yell: ‘What are you doing with your time? How can you be this slow? What’s wrong with you?’

The girlfriend said in fact it was Hill who created a volatile and dark atmosphere in the triad’s Santa Clarita home.

‘It would be like everything’s fine, then all of a sudden she’s flying off the handle furious about something,’ she said. 

The woman said her 15-month experience with Hill left her scarred even after 10 years of therapy.

‘I live my life to be as much the opposite of her as I can possibly be… If she was drowning I would not save her.’

‘I didn’t think it was a horrible thing. We’ve heard of Mormons having more than one wife. My husband and I are very open-minded,’ Kathy said. ‘I really liked her, she was a real down-to-earth gal.’

The relationship lasted until 2012, when Kathy said she noticed Hill becoming dismissive of the then-23-year-old and banishing her from the marital bedroom.

The woman, who DailyMail.com has chosen not to identify, lost not only her relationship but her job too. 

After bringing the college student into her marriage, Hill had hired her to write grants at Los Angeles charity People Assisting the Homeless (PATH), where Hill rose to become deputy CEO.

The woman chose to leave her job in 2012, around the same time the throuple ended.

Heslep said they kept their marriage closed for several years after, but remained curious about unorthodox relationships – and got their kicks by posting naked pictures of Hill online. 

Hill claims she was unaware that the photos were being taken.  

In 2016, Heslep shared a photo of his wife sunbathing naked in their backyard on the Reddit thread ‘r/WouldYouF***MyWife’.

‘We’ve always been very sexual. We’ve always had a lot of sex,’ Heslep said. ‘What we’d do is post a picture like that and get all worked up. ‘We were on swinger websites too. That’s how we met our first girlfriend, on OkCupid. We were putting ourselves out there.’ Pictured: A profile photo of Heslep and Hill on a dating site. Hill claims she was unaware that the photos were being taken

In 2016, Heslep shared a photo of his wife sunbathing naked in their backyard on the Reddit thread ‘r/WouldYouF***MyWife’. Hill claims she was unaware that the photos were being taken

In October 2010, the couple met their first girlfriend. Heslep explained: ‘We met her online. It was originally just going to be playing around, extra-curricular activities. But we weren’t into sex just for sex. We wanted to at least know the person, hang out with them, so it wasn’t just in, out, see you later’

Heslep said the main reason for having a throuple ‘was to help Katie explore her sexuality’, though he admitted ‘there were perks for me as well of course.’ He said the relationship worked like any other – apart from a few extra rules. ‘The sleeping arrangements were that the third was always in the middle,’ he said

Heslep did not name the woman, but DailyMail.com has independently learned she was an LA-based charity worker, who was a 21-year-old college student at the time

‘We’ve always been very sexual. We’ve always had a lot of sex,’ he said. ‘What we’d do is post a picture like that and get all worked up.

‘We were on swinger websites too. That’s how we met our first girlfriend, on OkCupid. We were putting ourselves out there.’

Heslep said when a ‘young, cute’ 22-year-old Desjardins started working for Hill’s campaign in 2017, the two of them couldn’t resist a second try at a triad.

‘She was a young, cute girl. Katie was sexually attracted to her right away,’ the 37-year-old said. ‘We knew it wasn’t the best idea given the circumstances, but it happened anyway.

‘We were both interested in her. We both talked about it. We said we’re not going to go after it like crazy, but if it happens, it happens.’

 If we had any arguments she would just smoke a bunch of weed and that would be it, there would be no talking to her any more.

Morgan Desjardins began working for Hill’s campaign in October 2017 as a ‘body person’, accompanying the politician to events, facilitating and arranging her schedule.

Heslep said Desjardins had told Hill she was bisexual when they’d first met, and described how his wife broached the subject of a three-way date about a month later.

‘Katie’s pretty blunt. They were in a car driving to an event. She said ‘So I hear you’ve been texting my husband a lot.’ Of course, [Desjardins] was thinking ‘Um, what do I do?’ Katie told her ‘It’s cool, it’s not our first rodeo.’ Then it was off to the races,’ Heslep said.

‘She started staying the night, and then eventually she started living with us full time by the end of January.’

But even as they started a new throuple, there were cracks appearing in Hill and Heslep’s marriage.

Her ex-husband said Hill began a downward spiral in 2015, when they discovered their friend and lodger shot herself in the head in their backyard. 

‘That sucked. We both had to deal with the body,’ Heslep said. 

Heslep said when a ‘young, cute’ 22-year-old Desjardins (pictured) started working for Hill’s campaign in 2017, the two of them couldn’t resist a second try at a triad

In one 2017 fling, Heslep claims Hill cheated on both him and her campaign staffer Morgan Desjardins, who had joined them in a three-way relationship, with another employee

Heslep said Desjardins had told Hill she was bisexual when they’d first met, and described how his wife broached the subject of a three-way date about a month later

But even as they started a new throuple, there were cracks appearing in Hill and Heslep’s marriage

‘I didn’t realize how bad it got to Katie. Our dads are cops, my mom’s a nurse. We have a dark sense of humor. You joke about that kind of stuff. But it really affected her.

‘Her anxiety led to drinking and smoking weed. That cycle never really stopped.

‘She preferred smoking over drinking, but she would do both. She would come home and immediately check out, zone out. Her anxiety meant every now and then she would have to stop what she was doing and calm down.

‘If we had any arguments she would just smoke a bunch of weed and that would be it, there would be no talking to her any more.’

Heslep said he began to recognize problems with his wife in March 2016, after she had declared her candidacy for the 25th congressional district.

‘I woke up at 6am. She was in a full cocktail dress, sitting on the edge of the bed,’ he said.

‘The first thing she said was she’s leaving me. I was freaking out, crying. She told me God told her to leave me, that the campaign was her higher purpose.’ 

Heslep says he believes his ex-wife was having serious issues in November 2017 when she allegedly cheated on him and their new girlfriend, Desjardins, just weeks into the throuple’s relationship.

Hill and Heslep were driving back from a PATH event, when one of her staff called offering a steamy, impromptu threesome.

‘One of her subordinates who lived up north called her all wrapped up. She said ‘I’m in a hotel room, you guys should come over,’ Heslep told DailyMail.com. 

Heslep says he believes his ex-wife was having a meltdown in November 2017 when she allegedly cheated on him and their new girlfriend, Desjardins, just weeks into the throuple’s relationship. Pictured: A text message between Heslep and Hill where she admits she’s been out drinking all night 

 He continued: ‘I said no. They kept trying to convince me. 

‘I told her ”You can do what you want. When we get home, you can leave. But I’m not doing this.” Sure enough, when we got home she took off.

‘That one upset me, and [Desjardins] didn’t like it much either. It was near the beginning of the relationship, so it kind of went away. She said she wouldn’t do it again.’ 

In October 2018, a month before the congressional election, Heslep was worried.

‘She was not sleeping. It would last for weeks. You can see it in her eyes. [Desjardins] used to call it ‘The Eyes’. Suddenly she’d be up at 3 a.m. emailing people like crazy.

‘She had [frantic] speech’, like ‘I have to get these thoughts out before I lose them.’

‘Substance use would go way up  – drinking, but mostly weed. She’d smoke a lot. That would kind of bring her down, but she’d rebound so every day she had to do it again.’

Heslep claimed he and Desjardins later found out that while at her mother’s empty house that weekend, Hill invited over one of her campaign finance staffers who had recently broken up from her fiancé.

He said the staffer, who had previously expressed curiosity about sex with women, told Desjardins she shared a bed with her boss that night, though did not say whether she had sex with Hill. 

This would be the third staffer Hill allegedly hooked up with.

Eventually Heslep decided to go public, posting on Facebook last year accusing his wife of an affair with Kelly, sparking an investigation by the House Ethics Committee, which bans relationships between representatives and their congressional staff

Heslep denied the alleged abusive behavior, telling DailyMail.com: ‘None of that’s true’

‘Katie actively hid that from us. [Desjardins] just happened to find out from the girl, because she didn’t know [Desjardins], Katie and I were a thing,’ Heslep said.

‘Katie just denied everything.’

The 37-year-old said he had been suspicious since Hill’s November 2017 fling that his wife was cheating on him. 

Heslep said he believes Hill cheated on him with Playboy Magazine journalist Alex Thomas, as their marriage came to an end.

Hill has confirmed a romantic relationship with Thomas and has spoken about vacationing with him in August 2019, but says it began after her marriage officially ended in early June last year.

‘I think Katie was playing the field a lot,’ Heslep said. ‘June 2, 2019 she texted us saying she was leaving us. 

‘She claims her relationship with Alex was after that. But it seems quick to go on a vacation with someone, unless you already have them on deck.’

Thomas later wrote about Hill’s throuple scandal in his email newsletter without disclosing his months-long relationship with the former congresswoman.

Last month Hill published an autobiography, She Will Rise, where she claimed Heslep was abusive and controlling.

Heslep’s mother Kathy said she became close to Hill, as the couple lived with Heslep’s parents for almost seven of their 15 years together, but never saw abuse

 ‘I think Katie was playing the field a lot,’ Heslep said. ‘June 2, 2019 she texted us saying she was leaving us. She claims her relationship with Alex was after that. But it seems quick to go on a vacation with someone, unless you already have them on deck’

‘He would scream, give snarling glares, snap his fingers at me, destroy things in our home, back me into a corner with his arms on either side so I couldn’t move,’ she wrote.

‘By the end, he had started walking around with a gun in his waistband.’

Hill claimed that during one fight, her husband shoved a gun at her and said, ‘If you want to kill yourself, then why don’t you go f**king do it.’

Heslep denied the alleged abusive behavior, telling DailyMail.com: ‘None of that’s true.’

Heslep’s mother Kathy said she became close to Hill, as the couple lived with Heslep’s parents for almost seven of their 15 years together, but never saw abuse.

Heslep said he also believes Hill cheated on him with Playboy Magazine journalist Alex Thomas, as their marriage came to an end

‘When I hear all this abuse bulls**t, it wasn’t there. We would have seen it,’ she said.

‘We shared the same kitchen, we ate dinner together almost every night. We’d sit in the living room and watch movies. There was a closeness between all of us.

‘It’s heartbreaking for her to be saying these things,’ she added. ‘We went up to the house to see Kenny after she left. When we left, I started throwing up from all the despair and just thinking about them not being together and breaking his heart.

‘I loved her and I loved what I saw in them. Little did I know it was all pretend on her part.’

The former congresswoman accused her ex-husband of illegal ‘revenge porn’ by allegedly leaking shocking naked pictures of her with a bong and an iron cross crotch tattoo and kissing Desjardins.

Heslep says he was hacked and did not leak the pictures – but that he had previously gathered them on a shared computer drive to compile proof of the throuple for his divorce case.

He did so after Hill’s lawyer threatened to tell the judge the triad was in fact an affair between Heslep and Desjardins.

After the scandal broke, Hill publicly admitted to the throuple and apologized for having a relationship with her campaign staffer.

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